Why not love our limits?

In the context of personal self-optimisation, one's own limit is more of a state that needs to be resolved or overcome. It is experienced as resistance, stagnation or inhibition and can be associated with feelings of anger or shame. It can be experienced in a similar way in a social context, in teams and organisations.

The demand for continuous and rapid growth has become our inner and outer drive. Our entire social, economic and financial system is based on this.

The pressure from outside and from ourselves also leads to extremes. The number of people who slip into depression, who withdraw socially, who no longer leave their homes out of fear, is growing.

On the other hand, we admiringly follow people who exceed physical and mental limits. We expect athletes to break records (Olympics), we follow companies that exceed goals, economic and technical limits. We ‘overlook’ the fact that our bodies and minds, our resources and nature are being exhausted, overtaxed and exploited.

I have already experienced ‘I feel at my limit’ myself.

That was the impetus for me to take an honest look at my life situation, question my goals and values and ultimately take a new direction by treating myself well.

My limit has also become my protective wall. I have discovered the great value of taking care of myself.

Growing beyond yourself is an encouraging experience and requires a phase of integration. It is HOW I want to grow, WHERE I want to grow and in WHAT context I want to grow. These new spaces within us need to be filled and integrated with self-care.

Opening limits is not just an act of will. If we don't take our feelings and our body with us, they will block us. We need our self-chosen caring towards ourselves, which becomes our friend or co-operation partner on the way forward.

Limits open up when the energy for them has matured internally and wants to push outwards like a natural impulse at the right moment. This is healthy growth.

I call it self-regulation.

In this sense, I love my limits.

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